Jinkoidization

     I arrived home from work with sore throat and a 40-degree fever. I have been stressed and sleep-deprived for the past few days. But instead of looking for my medicine kit and taking Paracetamol, I just slumped on my queen-sized bed and stare at the ceiling. I think, nothing to worry about. Some things are meant to go away on their own.

     Like people. It has been said too many times that we should not feel bad if someone said goodbye. We cannot hold them down no matter how much we try if they are not meant to stay. We can only be glad that once, they passed our way. There is a reason why he/she did not make it to our future. One thing certain is every encounter leaves us something to enrich ourselves.

     Rude people taught me that courage does not always need to intimidate. Rudeness ironically is a coward's way to appear strong. It is so much more difficult to control one's self than to be rude. But power does not belong to the one who shouts but to one who could wish his/her offender well.

     Insincere people taught me that no amount of eloquence and brilliantly-crafted words can bind a hurting heart. It is not honesty but love that can set us free, not the hardcore facts but the intention and fashion this truth has been delivered.

     Overly intelligent people taught me that they are the slowest to learn. They could not accept the fact that some things are just so simple that they try to complicate and find logic and formula  in everything. Once they learn something is out of their control, that it demands surrender, that it does not require calculations..they don't jump and just watch from afar convincing themselves that learning equates to observing

     But what I want to teach myself is-- as long as I cultivate and plant my own garden, I will not find myself waiting needlessly for other people to give me flowers. They can be rude. They can be insincere. They can be overly intelligent. But I will forgive the rude because they are truly scared. I will overlook the insincere because they are weak. I will understand the overly intelligent because they miss out on a lot of wonderful things.

     And if they go away on their own, like a 40-degree fever when it's gone, nothing to worry about... I can only feel relief.